Sorry, I am using my office computer, so no chinese input.

One of the reasons why I give this post is to increase my performance points in this board. Too many good articles here that I can't read due to my low points.

Ok, now is my story. I am an electrical engineering and got my Ph.D degree back in China. No education in States. So you can image my English skill.

I have already worked in this company for almost two years. This is my first job in states. The language pressure is there all the time. But it is O.K. I think it is the matter of time. Once I am working on it, it will get better. However the pressure from one of my co-worker sometimes almost drive me crazy.

The guy who gave me throuble is my internal customer and teammate as well. Due to this complicated business relationship, I do my best to maintain the good relationship with him. He has been serving the company for more than ten years and is rich experienced. I have no doubt about his experience. His academic background is also quite good. But he is not aways correct. Nobody does.

Several days ago, we had a discussion on one project to see whether his suggestion is feasible or not. I asked how he calculated one value which is important to decidse the feasibility. He became so anguish immediatly. I tried to be nice but it was very hard to make the discussion smoothly flow afterwards. He even questioned my education. I was so angry that I couldn't say any words in front of him, partailly because of my poor english. After long time of my silence and his questioning, he left my office. Personally, I don't want to see him any more. But the reality is we work in the same company and we are the only two electrical engineers. We definitely have to work together. There is no excuse about it. Fortunately, he is not my boss.

My husband told me it is because I am fresh and not tough. In the workplace, dog eat dog. But this guy has ten years of experience. What can support me to be tough with him? Plus I really don't know how to be tough.

Now i decided to interact with him only for business reason. That is it. I will learn through other source by myself. He is not the only one with experience in this world.

I am still in the bad mood because of this incidence. Very hard to step out. I really need some suggestions about how to handle this and improve my english.

[此贴子已经被Alexandria于2006-1-30 8:54:57编辑过]

Thanks a lot to everybody here. Very good points.

I think about the issue again last night and discussed with my husband. Since the guy has more than ten years'experience and know much more than me especially the field problem, I gave him a lot of respection. I kind feel nothing in front of him. This is the problem: I didn't give my own opnion the deserved respect. I should believe in what I think is correct and accept the mistakes if I made. Otherwise I would take all the blame. Since we are the only two electrical engineers, my husband suggested that I definetly should spend more extra time to study and learn so that I can defend myself better if something happenes again.

So I spoke out my points in front of my boss: the project (proposed by this guy) doesn't have clear objectives and there are some contradictions between the suggestion and the real problem in the field...... SOme clarification should be made before we proceed the project. Guess what this guy said: he agree what i said.

Personally I think, most of asian girls are too soft (correct me if I am wrong). This is the way how the culture raise us.

I have long way to go as far as technical knowledge, communication skill and self establishment is concerned. I take the suggestions given by all of you. It is my new year resoltution.

By the way, happy chinese new year and good fortune!!