新工作刚开始没多久, 以前都是小公司, 这次换个大的. 文化差异挺大的. 唉, 一直跟我的TEAMMATE一个GAY处不来, 他人也挺好,可是我们可能性格差异比较大,所以一有需要共同商量讨论的地方就特别费劲. 我们是开敞的办公环境, 我和他的STATION是挨着的. 平时我有时候说话,他总要来一句"Excuse me" .现在我也习惯了. 可是,今天他居然说"i cannot understand a single word you talked about".我太郁闷了. 是我说话声音太小? 他是认真的还是开玩笑的...我觉得很HURT. NICE的话, 应该说"大点声"或者"再说一便". 挺侮辱人的

JMS说说我该怎么看呀...你们平时工作不开心跟谁说呀...怎么改变这种状况...我这人情商太太差.  真心希望大家帮一把.

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sorry I have no Chinese input now.

Thanks amigoinca mm's analysis. it is like a bad recycle. The more those words he commented, the seldom I want to open mouth to communicate with him.  

Do you guys normally communicate a lot with coworkers to improve English? What topics do you talk about? I am not a sports fun, neither a political news fun. I surf a lot here but seems not a good choice to talk about.

another hard thing for me is "take it easy". I am too serious most of the time. I wish to change but do not know how.

Um, that is a good way to go. Last time, he said, some letters I pronounced too weak to catch for him. I should just keep asking him what letters and what the right way to pronounce them.

I am like a crane. Whenever someone criticise me, I blush first and then try to hide away. Totally forget the things to ask. My bad.

My concern is that will they feel bored or tired of your asking English questions all the time?

You said you read through again and thinks maybe it might really be the problem of my spoken English. Did you mean you found out because of my written expression is pretty bad too? if that is the case, could you point out a little bit?

I just feel it is hard to find someone to help you on improving whatever you need to. say, nobody will directly say your sentense is wrong, your pronounciation is wrong, not even talk about wrong manners, pessimistic attitude. They are nice to you all the time. That is one reason why I ended up like this. Even have been in this country for almost 6 years, I still have serious problem with communication. What a shame.

Do criticise what you think is not right and will help on other people's growth.

wow, situation is so similar. I have 2 bosses too. well, he is not exactly a boss, but he is a team member who has much more experience than  me and he got onto the project even earlier than the PM. yeah, it is confusing. Sometimes he is nice and encouraging but all of a sudden he can be bossy and rude. I even thought about asking his PERSONALITY TYPE. so, What did you do finally to get along with him? Any tricks? um, I should be more self-confident.

Almost the end of Thursday. I will ask more tonight in Chinese.

I really really admire people with strong mindset. I can be strong on my own. I know what I should do or learn. But when it comes to communication, my mind fainted away. It is not like wearing a dress, even other people think it is ugly, you still can be proud and feel very good about it. But for communication, I will always question if there is something wrong I did that offensed other people so they do not like me. Or I should just change the way I am communicating.

It has been 2 days. I decided to learn "take it easy". So, I greeted him in the morning and asked him questions as nothing happened. He was alrite with me. Another issue is I feel afraid to ask other people questions b4 checking with him since he will get unhappy when I did not ask him. It is a totally open working environment, so there is no way for me to just "quietly" ask other people. Only when he cannot give me an answer, I feel free to ask others since we are doing the same project and he got more experience. I hate it. totally. 

ha, interesting to know this similar situation. en, i will try that psychological hint. Thanks Candyheart for keep replying me. I feel encouraged. Sometimes it is hard to find answers from the web like turningleaf mm, but I am more lucky? ;-)