You girls' discussions are so abstract. Am I the only one who got confused/headache all the time?

I agree that "Xu Rong Xin" on fashion board shouldn't be criticized over and over again. Fashion board is served for a different purpose and a different aspect of life, so it's not fair to judge it in general. Most of girls have our own fantacies, and fashion satisfies our fantacies in certain degree.

I feel headache when I read those abstract discussions because nobody define any terms and then make assumptions known to themselves. The communication is not going to be effective in that way.

to leaf: I understand that you are frustrated. But as some girls pointed out, maybe there are ways for you to get your point cross with more efficient communication. You assume that people know where you are from and understand you, but it's not true most of time. You'll feel a lot better without much expectation and use plain language to explain your views:-)

In addition, i'm not sure what iwill and as_still_water think on communication issues...you mentioned your private discussion with them, which might not be the most effective way as your conversation was private, and they might not want to discuss your private conversation in public. One might think that the two gals are going to quit, but it might not be the case unless they say so......right?

Take it easy. There is nobody who wants to attack you on this board. easy, easy.

那我也来开诚布公一下。版上并没有像你这样逐字逐句的解释自己得mm，对吧？为什么呢？除了文字的交流有局限以外，叶子是否可以思考一下是否自己交流的方式可以提高？我在我自己的帖子里面没有和你多聊，一个是没有时间，另一个是，你说的论点非常咬文嚼字，而且和我对某些词的定义不同，甚至有点抬杠。这样的交流，是没有什么价值的。最后呢，实话说，我看不懂你说的一些东西。从内容到语气，我都没有看懂。（不排除我理解能力差的原因）。

很多时候，意思点到就可以了（甚至给别人自己理解留一定余地），没有必要辨个你死我活。很多道理我觉得99%的人都是明白的。为了一个没有事先定义的词语来辩论，岂不是浪费时间？你很有穷追不舍的精神，但是有的时候，放一下，退一步，更能解决问题。

关于这个事情，我的帖子就此为止：）

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