楼主不会聊天啊，很dry，两句话就聊死了。比如那个男生说喜欢看高尔夫的时候，你可以往下接：
girl: oh, any big games recently?
guy: last weekend it was XXX, xxx
girl: thatsounds like a great game! I never played gold but I always wantto . do you think it'stoo late for me to start? what's trickyabout it? xxx
guy: the key to play golf is blablabla. I don't think it's too late. i can teach you if you want（如果对你有兴趣的话男生一般都会接这个茬）.
看，第二个date有了吧。
如果说足球：
girl：yeah i know - hot football season right now and all guys are glued to the sofa and beers. which one is your team/what's your fav team?
guys: xxx
你就可以顺着问他: how's your team been doing this season then? when's the next game? which team are they playing? xxx （如果你不懂足球的话） i always wanted to understand football more. sounds like a pretty complex game?
然后男生就开始滔滔不绝告诉你football怎么回事，你再来回问点细节问题。然后约着下次一起看球。
说你的project sounds exciting 之后，你可以接：
girl: yeah i am very excited about it. how about you? any exciting projects you have been working on?
然后话头又转回给男生了
说cooking的时候，那个男生都说了他新找到一个receipe做的很好吃但其实很简单，你应该顺着就接下去问：
girl：I love paella! never tried to make it myself - looks complicated. how did you do it?
然后男生就开始blabla讲怎么做这个菜。你可以穿插着问一些细节，这个天就聊下去了。末了你再说：
girl: that still sounds complicated to me! you must be a very experienced cook！i always have trouble dealing with the xxxx. (如果你看他有兴趣的话可以给他讲一个你的cooking的小故事。）或者：that does sound not too bad at all. I'm gonna give it a try this week too. have you tried xxx?
总的来说你跟人聊天要对他聊的这个topic有兴趣，能够形成一来一往的针对于这个话题的conversation。你的目的是have a good conversation and have a good time, 顺带考察这个人，而不是oh let's get a second date and get married. 还有关键要给男生扔一个open question，让他有机会滔滔不绝。这样既可以让他开心，有显摆的机会，又可以伺机多了解他一些。
btw这种聊天方式适合于任何社交环境。
祝好运。