I have similar situation like lz. we dated about 4 years instead of 5. We've never had sex because I strongly refused. At first, I refused it because I don't want to do it before marriage. I don't think it's right. But later on, I found even if sometimes I want to do it, we couldn't, because I'm cn, and his thing is huge that he definitelly can not go in. Now, I just lost interest to do it. I feel like my hormal level is really low. only a few days before my period, I have a little bit feelings. otherwise, I really don't like sex at all. My bf said I'm not physically attracted to him. I don't know. What do you mean by physically attracted? The first time will be very painful, how mms are so brave to try it if you don't know this man is going to marry you? But his excuse is if he is not sure if we are able to have sex, why should he get married?

confused.

but if it does not work after the test drive, your first time will be gone.

Plus, test drive what? you can tell by other behaviors related to sex, instead of intercourse, which is more dangerous.

Sorry, my english is bad and I can not type chinese right now.

I mean intercouse is more dangerous because it may give you disease, pain, and other potential female problems. Instead, if you can tell if this guy is gay or not by if he wants to have sex, if he likes to touch you, or if he do sy often, etc.

But before he met me, he had sex with a few other girls. Even if he has no disease, even if using condom, we can not make sure it is safe. What if some bad things happened, who will be responsible for this. I've also heard it is very easy to get female problems if you have sex too often, or not in a correct way, or non-clean sex, which we can not be 100% sure.

I just don't know how people can treat sex so casual. After all, it is directly related to your health.