大家谈论下再你们心眼中什么是wife material
说来惭愧，不止一个男人跟我说过，我身上 radiate some kind of sexy scense, 女得也又说过
有过不止一个老男人（比我大至少15岁以上得） 正面跟我谈过要以睡我为主题，没有结婚为目的 （可是我内心却是很传统得，觉得不以结婚为目的得来睡我都是耍流氓，所以都拒绝了）
但是真正交往下来，好像想着正儿八经交往得好像也交往不长时间。。。
难道这就是命嘛？ 如果不是命的话，我该怎么培养我得wife material 呢？
yogalover 发表于 2021-03-04 21:52
wife material有什么统一的标准，摇滚明星的老婆， 水管工的老婆和哈佛教授的老婆肯定不是类似的材料特质
10 qualities that constitute wife material (according to men)
I want to be clear that this is not about being a good person. It’s about what is marriage-material attractive to men as far as romantic relationships go.
Here’s a summary of what the men I interviewed said…
1. She’s doesn’t need me in any way. She wants me. That’s wife material. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who isn’t afraid of being alone.
2. She lets me chase her instead of chasing me and questioning my every move.
3. She isn’t emasculating. And she feels comfortable being vulnerable with me. We support one each other.
4. Even though I’m not exactly where I want to be in life, she can tell that I’m right where I need to be as far as emotional intelligence and maturity go. And she respects that and sees the value in it. She appreciates that I’ve done the work on myself and because of that, she knows that I will accomplish my goals. She wanted me, supported me, and believed in me when I had nothing.
5. She has control over her emotions and because of this, is not a liability that I have to worry about in any way (in regard to having a lack of tact around people I care about). She is predictable where it matters (integrity, honesty, loyalty, character, etc.) and unpredictable where it’s fun (use your imagination).
6. She isn’t emotionally or physically abusive and doesn’t get off to drama.
7. Whether she’s with me or out with friends, everything she does says “I respect myself and I respect the man I am with.” She conducts herself respectfully on social media and isn’t thirsty for attention.
8. She doesn’t play games but she always provides a mental challenge. I’m never bored. She’s comfortable in her own skin and can take my compliments instead of talking me out of them.
9. She has her own life and because of that, has some grit to her. She isn’t cold, she’s just not afraid to take action.
10. She is completely loyal and gives her all but I know that she WILL leave if the trust and loyalty are not reciprocated. That’s basically the difference between wife material and doormat/booty call material.
Bottom line, everything will turn around when you turn inward. When you stop looking for someone to fix you, rescue you, be your rock, and see in you what can’t see in yourself. Remember, you have the ability to choose how you want to live your life, how healthy you want to be mentally, and how you want to be treated.
And to the right man, that’s wife material.
For those looking for doormat material… they can keep walking.
x Natasha
from: [url]https://natashaadamo.com/wife-material/[/url]
teddy_2021 发表于 2021-03-05 16:56
看来大部分女人都不是wife material
不排除这可能性。
我有另外一个瞎猜：可能该楼主听闻过太多 老公在老婆怀孕斋戒没性事时期 就找外援的轶事，所以才开那主题问问过来人的策略。
MeekSarah 发表于 2021-03-05 16:31
用伺候这个词就是吸引眼球， click bait。
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