Please continue, it’s good see you are reflecting. Though I’m not a fan of over analyzing ones childhood to root cause the adult issues.

Pearlmm, well said, I had the same thought. Lz, you r overdoing it as a people pleaser. 五十而知天命, say what you feel and think, especially in this anonymous forum.

Just read your latest update, you wife/exwife is clearly a strong minded woman. At least from your description, she set the agenda for your family, kids, education, activities. While it maybe interpreted as you being accommodating, it could also be interpreted as you are passive and she has to be the one always taking initiatives. that can get tiring after a while, she probably want to see you man up once in a while, set the course, and challenge her where appropriate. I wonder if the dissolution of marriage was in part due to you being too passive.