祝愿 大家 情人节 快乐！
随便上网搜寻了 一些 「情人节语录」
看到这两句：
「我做早晨第一个唤醒你的人，做夜晚最后一个看你入睡的人。」
后感：我现在天天对我先生真的如此。
「我爱你这三个字，我会用一辈子去解释。」
听起来似是要用上determination 来爱一辈子的。
刚才受 文兄 在此 主题下 第 9 页， #85 楼层 一邀请 ：「说说你们是如何开始的吗？说的第一句话，见的第一面。」
或者只看 層主的我： https://huaren.us/showtopic.html?topicid=2654697&fid=397&page=1&posterid=447734
巧合今天遇上 情人節，我就在樓下先分享。
Flashback - First Encounters
以下是我先生的 blog journal:
Our relationship did not start in a flash. In fact I was avoiding any personal interaction with Sarah from the start.
(背景：我和他当时 都已离了婚，但双方都不选择改变当时的家庭岗位，责任，贡献。于是选择不公开我俩的单身 availabel status. )
I am married. She is married. I didn’t want to start something that would lead to temptation, or more. So I stayed away.
I kept my interactions with her professional. But then two things happened. Looking back I am still surprised at how easily she slipped past all of my barriers. Surprised at how unexpectedly I fell into a relationship with her. Surprised at how quickly and deeply I fell for her. The first thing was small. In one of those large droning meetings I heard people coming in the door behind me. I saw Sarah enter and smiled at her reflexively.
She smiled back.
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Days pass. Her smile is stuck in my mind. Our group was on deadline. There was a lot of work to be done. I had a lot to learn about the business and how it was built. Some of that required me to work in groups that included Sarah. During this time I observed her and learned about her. She is very intelligent. Our company relies on her for many things. Even with all the deadlines and people running in and out asking questions, she maintains her calm, poise and grace. I was impressed. The second thing was quirky. I was working on an issue and had questions. My manager told me, “Go ask Sarah. She knows most things.” I walked up to Sarah’s desk and said, “Hello.” She looks up me with her brown eyes and says,
“Are you here for a social visit or work?”
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For a moment, I was dumbfounded. I immediately wished it were a social visit. But I was unprepared for this situation and simply answered, “Sorry, it’s work.” I asked my questions. She answered them thoughtfully and thoroughly. I went back to my desk. I wanted to go back and see her again and have a “social visit.” I cast around in my mind for an excuse to go back to her desk. Eventually I decided I didn’t need an excuse. I picked up the family picture on my desk and went back to her desk. I told her I had come back for a social visit. She smiled. We sat and talked for about 20 minutes. I talked about my family and she about hers. It felt very natural. I was sitting very close to her. I watched her intently as she spoke. I felt my desire for her stirring.
~ Sarah''s Sir
I knew at this point Sarah was special. I needed to be on my guard to avoid any romantic entanglements. But my heart wanted her. So my head told me what I wanted to hear, “You can be just friends.” Ha! It sounded so reasonable, so plausible at the time. In hindsight it was neither. But I didn’t know that yet, so I was blissfully unaware of what was about to happen.
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Things are a bit of a blur at this point. I am running down a hill that was too steep. I do not dare stop because I will start to tumble and get hurt. All I can do is control my fall and hope I land somewhere safe.
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I recall going to a group lunch with her and we talked a lot. I tried to spread my attention around the table so I did not appear too focused on Sarah. I don’t know how obvious I was being at the time. I recall going to another lunch with just Sarah. She was a little surprised that it was just the two of us. She had assumed it was another group lunch. But she was kind and did not break her commitment. We sat and talked and had a wonderful time.
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She is so amazing. I started looking for ways to spend time with her. She usually arrives at the office before me, so I started coming in earlier so we could sit in the kitchen and talk. We met at a Starbucks one morning. We sat and talked like we always do. That was when I began to realize what was happening to me. To us. I could not stop myself if I wanted to. I did not want to.
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My memory is still a little blurry at this point. I am falling. I would reserve conference rooms in the morning so we could be alone and talk. We spent a lot of time together. In the mornings. At lunch. After work. She took me out for Tapas one evening after work. I sat across the table from her in this empty restaurant. I had unfettered access to look into her eyes. Watch her lips as she talked. She was mesmerizing.
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Somewhere along the way. Sometime during all these discussions we were having. She managed to slip by every defense around my heart. Defenses I have spent decades building and fortifying. She just walked in to my heart the way you walk into your own house. Confident, warm, comfortable, unthinking, because she belongs there. Sarah belongs in my heart. I am happier than I have been in a long time.
~ Sarah''s Sir
看的好甜蜜。比较喜欢英文原版，读起来浓情蜜意。
guotangma 发表于 2021-02-17 02:21
我个人所见所闻，翻译带有感情，感概的内容比较挑战性（challenge）。
例如: 电影 “The Day After Tomorrow” 2004年出品，有中文翻译成 【后天】
当时的香港文化 （给家父常用 「文化沙漠」来形容其文学之低品）却能把这部电影名翻译成：【明日之後】
两个不同翻译虽然都准确，但【明日之後】卻 「别是一般滋味在心头」。
继续post，好看，好甜蜜
我也喜欢吃tapas
trudily 发表于 2021-02-15 23:38
我也很久没有去那家吃 tapas了。
最近，我先生在与他对姐妹讲电话，告诉了她们知 他为了我生活有保障而立了遗书。他说了一句感动我的话：「如果我死了又没有法律保障的遗书，她会变成 homeless.」
我刚刚看完那个 love on the spectrum，最后一集的求婚我哭的稀里哗啦。平常看电视剧电影，甚至身边的求婚，我都是完全没有泪感的。
真的觉得你老公好有爱。剧里的很多人看起来都很正常，多观察一会或多或少跟NT的人还是有一点不一样。能跟他们长期的走下去，真的是要做好 长期好好照顾他们的打算。
我自己看的时候在想，我是做不到的。像配偶这样的长期关系里，我期望的是两人相互照顾。要我长期的去照顾对方，不是说做不到，但是肯定不是我的第一选择。剧里看他们跟父母和爱人的互动，真的能体会到一种更为纯粹更有深度的爱。
I feel so happy for you.
trudily 发表于 2021-03-05 00:13
昨晚临睡前阅读这回覆，马上指住 “love on the spectrum” 笑嘻嘻地望住我先生。
他笑回：“I am living with one. That is why every night, before I go to bed, the nearest toilet is occupied and I have to use the farthest toilet. ”
因：我这Asperger 不用其它toilet，只固执地「御用」某一个。上次，我先生换了个新式设计有水洗butt的侧板，竟然发现我几天不能大便。
我問：“I don't know why I consistently fall into the same time as you to use the toilet every night?”
他用一点也没有 bother 他的轻松谈笑声(很好的卖相)说 ："I know why. You are wrapped into your little world until I come to bed. Then you just realize it is bed time and the task before sleep is to pee. "
谢谢你 能有与人同乐的 爱心！
我个人心得分享：有了 不嫉妒，不羡慕别人的故事 的心境 就容易 与人同乐！
One evening, perhaps three months after we met, I woke up.
The denial that hazed my vision was pieced.
The truth of my heart had arrived in my consciousness.
Arrived is, perhaps, too weak a word.
It overwhelmed me.
It was a wave that had crashed over me weeks ago and I was just now realizing I had been swept out into the sea of Sarah’s heart.
Sarah is a good woman.
She has an openness and honesty about her that is so complete she is naked in the world.
She engenders a trust so completely she is unlike any woman I have been with before.
I trust her completely.
This is new to me.
I am not a trusting person by nature.
I always reserve a small piece of my trust from everyone, my wife, my sisters, my friends.
But there is Sarah.
Sweet, honest, lovable Sarah.
She is beautiful on the inside and out.
During our conversations I learned much about Sarah.
She is married and has beautiful daughters.
Her husband is a good man and husband.
She works hard.
She doesn’t worry about the future.
She is a romantic.
She has a deep belief in God and the Bible.
She is very organized.
Even a little OCD.
She only had one boyfriend before she met her husband.
She remembers him fondly.
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