We went to a judge to get the marriage license before we threw a wedding ceremony. It just worked better for us for various reasons. Both of our families were supportive. What we did was to have one of my husband's relatives be our wedding officiant. We didn't have a lick of guilt for what we did and everybody had a blast at the wedding. After all wedding day is YOUR day and your and your husband have every right to choose how you want your wedding to be. Whoever wants to judge you can GTFO.
Hope it helps.