经历的dating中的那些套路（更新）-第1页

HeidyC

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回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73247506#73247506]151楼雪夭的帖子[/url]

也有破解法：time will tell. 时间是检验真心的最好方式。
Monicaw 发表于 11/7/2016 9:09:02 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73247699#73247699][/url]

haha, exactly, no matter how good he is to pretend himself. It will show occasionally, make sure when it happens you can spot it

HeidyC

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有个事不太明白，是不是渣男永远都渣，还是渣只是针对某个人或者某些事（flexible) .我总觉得一个人如果capable做些很渣的事情，以后总的小心点。

HeidyC

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回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73340570#73340570]176楼HeidyC的帖子[/url]

MM我会比较倾向于第二种。因为我们自己都难免会在特定的环境下做出伤害别人的事情。
Monicaw 发表于 11/16/2016 9:25:12 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73340649#73340649][/url]

有时候伤心难免，比如grow apart要分手我觉得可以理解，大家坦诚谈一谈把伤害减到最小。我想那种做事情很low的，以后还会继续low
不知道有没有说明白，我的意思就是变心可以理解，但底线是要有的

HeidyC

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姐姐我过来传授经验了。哈哈哈。我23岁24岁的时候，也是date了不少，从那种portfolio manager到lawyer到小engineer都有，最后误打误撞遇到我老公，他最惨的时候投靠了我，现在发达了，也算是happy ending吧。
我觉得稳定可靠的关系，来源于你们两个是否是合适。人生这么长，你能用头脑来经营30年的婚姻么？就算你走进婚姻，能用头脑来经营生孩子，养孩子这种关系么？我觉得光靠头脑不可以，还要看你们两个是否合拍。
我觉得成功婚姻最大的要素，就是你要知道你想要什么的人。我看你的发言，貌似你比较中意事业成功多金精英男？姐姐我也算是阅人无数了，hedge fund都工作过。大部分精英男，85%大男子主义，是你要去花精力去哄得。剩下的15%，肯能符合你的标准，但是人家也是外貌协会，要求挺高的。

其实农村的男人没有什么太多的花花肠子，很多人都是marry了自己的大学甜心啥的。我觉得纽约，波士顿，芝加哥，LA这些城市的男人的花花肠子比较多。

qiangdaxia 发表于 11/16/2016 9:36:43 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73340759#73340759][/url]

精英男确实是花时间，和他们一起基本是个part time job. 还要不断努力提高自己才不被淘汰，当个男朋友算是有面子。过日子一点不实际。
我就想找个善良顾家的，都不知道去哪找，现在想想还真难

HeidyC

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我觉得是看“渣”的方式吧。是本质渣还是一时处事方式渣

咩咩phone 发表于 11/16/2016 9:55:44 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73340935#73340935][/url]

也是，可能有的人就是不太会办事，把事情办渣了，情商低的男生是不少就是

HeidyC

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怎么区分是不会办事还是本质渣呢，不容易啊，人心难测，毕竟只能通过一个人的行为去揣测她的为人

fondly 发表于 11/16/2016 10:13:10 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73341098#73341098][/url]

是挺难的，可能要日久见人心吧，多接触人应该也能让自己对人的理解辨识能力好一点

HeidyC

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回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73340759#73340759]182楼qiangdaxia的帖子[/url]

你说的我很赞同～～事业成功多金精英男是我曾经的中意目标，现在也看清楚了和他们建立感情维护感情要付出些什么，付出多少努力。
目前觉得情商高聪明有Leadership潜力的理工男工程师们，倒是个很不错的约会对象们，他们聪明且专注，花花套路相对而言没那么多，身上有很多我欣赏的特质。而且我的特质和性格对他们也是一个不错的good match. （捂脸走，心情愉悦中）

Monicaw 发表于 11/16/2016 11:53:19 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73342044#73342044][/url]

"情商高聪明有Leadership潜力的理工男工程师们" they are very popular too, and "how to tell情商高", "有Leadership潜力"If a guy is 情商高聪明 he knows what they want and he gets what they want.

HeidyC

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I like engineering entrepreneurs, my favorite type
nonexistance 发表于 11/18/2016 4:16:33 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73356822#73356822][/url]

to be an entrepreneur is hard. And I think if they are not successful at age of 35 it will be even harder.

HeidyC

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What is the magic about 35? Being an entrepreneur needs talents and luck. I hope I can be a successful entrepreneur before 35, if 35 is a magical number :))

nonexistance 发表于 11/18/2016 5:53:15 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73357718#73357718][/url]

35 is just example. I mean if someone is really talented and hard-working, they should be sort of successful in a relatively young age. After a certain age it is hard to make that kind of commitment and devotion to business due to age or family thing. (sorry can not use Chinese input here in office)

HeidyC

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(me neither, no chinese input in office) I agree. I have dated several entrepreneurs. They are all workaholic especially within the first 2-3 years (work >100 hours a week) they started the company. No time for anything, not just dating. That is why they are still single. But they are still young, no rush for marriage. But in their stories, there are some female successful entrepreneurs (co-founders) who're already married and have kids. Not sure how those female entrepreneurs made it though. Wish I could be someone like them.

nonexistance 发表于 11/18/2016 6:13:27 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73357898#73357898][/url]

I think that is the devotion and passion needed to be successful entrepreneurs, since that area is sooooo competitive.

I am not so sure about entrepreneurs. But I know female professors.
1. successful ones are 1).single 2) have husband no kids 3)has kids divorced. 4) successful and get lots help from their husband(super successful professors), that is not a bad thing, I think they teamed up in a different way. And they married to each other basically solved the problems for both of them:)
2. if just be a OK female professors they pretty much can have life they want, no sacrifice needed.

HeidyC

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4) successful and get lots help from their husband(super successful professors)Same thing for those successful female entrepreneurs! My dates told me those females got a lot of help (mostly connections) from their husbands!!! Call me superficial or whatever you want. But that is why I am only interested in high-quality men. I am hoping my future husband can help me succeed as well.

nonexistance 发表于 11/18/2016 6:40:13 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73358079#73358079][/url]

That is not superficial at all. It is much harder for female to success since it is still a big boys club. There is no shame to get some help since your BF or husband is your teammate your partner. But base on my observation, only few guys want their wife to be very successful. they worried about loosing power in relationship as well.

HeidyC

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非常同意两位mm的见解，可惜我太晚熟，太老了才知道自己要什么

现在超级大龄，还有可能找到对自己有帮助的另一半吗？

fondly 发表于 11/18/2016 8:05:44 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73358692#73358692][/url]

You absolutely can. Base on my observation, successful man like girls have upbeat personality. So be positive!

HeidyC

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谢谢mm鼓励！

上哪认识成功人士也是个问题，cmb没人说话，okc上多半连个正常package都没有，难道去那种创业的meetup event 试试？那种萍水相逢估计也不容易connect上吧。match没试过，是不是上面的人package好点？

这个确实是个问题，我觉得尽人事知天命吧，吧该做的做到最好在好好提高自己，meetup可以去啊，充实自己也是好的。多认识人总是好的，就算是女生也算交个朋友更别人学点东西也是好事啊。

fondly 发表于 11/18/2016 9:43:01 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2069640&postid=73359378#73359378][/url]

经历的dating中的那些套路 （更新）

经历的dating中的那些套路（更新）