平时相处他对我很好，但是承诺的大的事情都会找个借口拖延或者直接假装忘掉，所以我才真的很困惑很困惑。。。
有次我们吵过之后各自冷静，他写了一段话分析自己的想法:

when she gets mad, i get scared and hurry up tp try to please her, get really nervous and heart beat fast.
when she calms down, i calm down, get back to ordinary routines.
when i think she wants to leave, i try hard to get her back, to improve myself and meet her requirements.
when i think she is all mine, i seem to become passive. why is that?
when she is with me, i sometimes want to travel the world, sometimes want to settle down.
when she is not with me, i really want her back. Especially her good attitude and kindness towards me.
Scared of losing her.


moonlesssky 发表于 6/1/2017 11:56:13 AM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2174139&postid=74952363#74952363][/url]

还用分析，想要relationship的benefit, 不想要relatinship带来的拘束和不便，不自由，compromise。