以下是引用snapfish在2006-5-12 12:10:00的发言：

两年前的时候，我几乎得到了一个我们行业top one company 的offer, 这是两年前人家给我的回信，可是我那时候怕老板，他又不给我办opt,同时我怀孕了，就错过了去这个大公司的机会，虽然拿到master后，一边生宝宝，带宝宝，读博士，可是心里很不痛快，而且我们专业很偏，老板在行业里的影响力很大，但是现在越读越痛苦，索性从一个月之前开始找工作，是换了专业找的，现在拿到两个onsite,但是怎么和人家解释我又读了博士，又要quit 呢，另外H1要10月份才生效，我又没有opt了，如果cpt,那老板知道公司的名字，马上就能把这事给搞砸，心里好烦啊

I would definitely encourage you to discuss your career options with your
: professor and family as well.  Take your time and discuss these concerns
: with them.  When you are ready - email me some preferred times in the next
: few months when you might be free to spend about two days in our company
:  to see our facility and interview with some engineers.  We will cover
: you travel costs and can probably accommodate any time you prefer.
: After the visit, we will discuss your credentials and if things went well
: will make you a job offer to start after your work at your university.

MM, I don't know how tough your boss is. I always think being a mother is more difficult than finding a job. I believe you'll get a good job [em08]

From my experience, the best policy is to just tell the truth. 我在国内读研时，实验室的师兄告诫我千万不要让大老板知道我在考GRE准备出国，因为以前有个师兄偷偷考G不来实验室让老板知道了大发雷霆。我想了想跑去和大老板说我想出国，不过我会保证好好干活，他很高兴，从此我就光明正大的在实验室背单词了。他后来给我和我LD（当时还是BF）都写了很好的推荐信。当然我的老板虽然很严厉但人很好。我在Ph. D.第三年生了宝宝，找工作面试时都实话实说了，好象没影响拿offer。我觉得如果公司不能理解你的情况，以后工作也不会太开心。

祝MM好运！