mm写得很实在，搬小凳学习。就现阶段菜鸟而言，我也投EH一票。最初尝试了EH之后觉得太慢，就又尝试了match，只挂了一个月，来信的男人都太让人恶心了，一度怀疑自己怎么就吸引不到好男人（当然这个的确有很多方面需要自我提升，但是跟EH联系的相比，男人的靠谱程度差太远了）。虽然我还没有通过EH找到，但是见面的两个至少是形象过关的靠谱男人。虽然我也承认因为自己经验不足搞砸了一个。
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（干货都没了）从online dating说到bloody gorgeous Harvey!
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mm你说的太好了。可惜我功力不够，每次看你的发言就想到自己犯过的错误![[em53]](https://emojis.huaren.us/static/emojis/v1/yoci/em53.gif)
以下是引用cute-wheat在6/5/2012 2:40:00 PM的发言：
不要联系。就等着他找你。现在还没到你主动短信电话他的时候呢！我要warning你一下。此男看似很靠谱，貌似对你很上心的样子，但是不见得是好事！一般真的很不错的男人，绝对会play cool, 不会一开始就这么上杆子的联系女方，人家脑子也不憨。所以，这男的要么情商不高，要么就是真有什么事没和你坦白（此类男人我见识过）。。不过也有可能人家真的很喜欢你，想和你交往。。。不过就算这样，也会play cool呀。细水长流呀！anyway, 你要当心。不要被表象冲昏头脑！！！！
不要联系。就等着他找你。现在还没到你主动短信电话他的时候呢！我要warning你一下。此男看似很靠谱，貌似对你很上心的样子，但是不见得是好事！一般真的很不错的男人，绝对会play cool, 不会一开始就这么上杆子的联系女方，人家脑子也不憨。所以，这男的要么情商不高，要么就是真有什么事没和你坦白（此类男人我见识过）。。不过也有可能人家真的很喜欢你，想和你交往。。。不过就算这样，也会play cool呀。细水长流呀！anyway, 你要当心。不要被表象冲昏头脑！！！！
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lz慢慢来，我耐心等, 飞吻的小猴子~
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这楼歪了............
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以下是引用cute-wheat在6/9/2012 4:52:00 PM的发言：
满脑子全是卖萌帅大叔harvey, 无心更贴
满脑子全是卖萌帅大叔harvey, 无心更贴
hahahaha, you are so cute!!!!!
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以下是引用karenqianyun在6/9/2012 10:16:00 PM的发言：
楼主个色情狂，不要花痴了，快去填坑！！！！！ boston legal是挺好看的。当年我朋友推荐的时候，我看了几次都看不下去。觉得太无理头了。终于有一次看了大半季就看上了。allen shaw算是人格魅力型大叔吧。我看到后来就很爱他了。那个剧挺搞的，算是热血爱国剧，跟the west wing很像。不像普通法律剧，老是找证据，搞破案，它是搞辩论。动不动就啥是自由，啥是民主~~~~~然后danny是不能不劈腿狂，allen是永远不能结婚狂。然后allen永远说不出我爱你。然后有次他女友说，你可以说you smell good, instead.我看了超感动。后来我很想跟我前大叔说我爱你，又扯不下脸说得比他多，只好老是跟他说，you smell good~~~
楼主个色情狂，不要花痴了，快去填坑！！！！！ boston legal是挺好看的。当年我朋友推荐的时候，我看了几次都看不下去。觉得太无理头了。终于有一次看了大半季就看上了。allen shaw算是人格魅力型大叔吧。我看到后来就很爱他了。那个剧挺搞的，算是热血爱国剧，跟the west wing很像。不像普通法律剧，老是找证据，搞破案，它是搞辩论。动不动就啥是自由，啥是民主~~~~~然后danny是不能不劈腿狂，allen是永远不能结婚狂。然后allen永远说不出我爱你。然后有次他女友说，你可以说you smell good, instead.我看了超感动。后来我很想跟我前大叔说我爱你，又扯不下脸说得比他多，只好老是跟他说，you smell good~~~
捶地笑的小猴子.
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撒花撒花，mm辛苦了
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以下是引用karenqianyun在6/25/2012 9:15:00 PM的发言：
赶快唠叨有钱人的八卦啊。不要停！
赶快唠叨有钱人的八卦啊。不要停！
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小麦mm求指点。。。 date几次之后觉得对方有点鸡肋的感觉了是不是就可以直接move on了？ 说鸡肋是因为觉得大方向上好像还可以，形象和背景能过关，实在是要想象跟他生活在一起也不会有太抗拒的感觉，但整体就是少了那么点火候让我觉得被吸引。这种是不是早点抽身就好，还是多给几次机会再聊聊？
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以下是引用cute-wheat在5/9/2013 2:20:00 AM的发言：
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better...
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better...
我可以感觉到他很喜欢和我在一起。肤浅一点的说，虽然出去的次数还不算多，但从吃饭看出来，作为一个对自己还比较节省的工薪男，他还是很肯在我身上花钱的，钱虽然不表一切，不过至少显示了一些诚意吧。 只是这个男人上次说了一句话让我有点red flag。 聊天嘛难免会有各种性格阿家庭的对话，忘了怎么开始的但他居然来了一句to be honest I feel like you already know me so well that you could easily hurt me emotionally, I'm a bit scared。我当时就觉得，首先，两个人还没怎么开始呢你怎么就有这种别人会Hurt你的victim心态？难道最开始不是要enjoy最开心的时候么？这种心态总觉得他已经有想逃避的状态了。其次，我不过跟他见面一个多月，哪里有know him so well。 不过我也不知道是不是我自己有问题，因为我总是不太习惯别人夸我，他一夸我我就不自在没反应甚至不让他夸 （感觉这里可以自pia了![[em89]](https://emojis.huaren.us/static/emojis/v1/yoci/em89.gif)
），所以上次大家cuddle, 他突然来了句, you're so pretty , why don't you want me to say you're pretty, if you fall for someone, don't you 然后就自己停止了一片沉默，我也懒得问他想说什么，因为心里在想我们才约了几次呢怎么可能fall for you。 大概是他自己感觉到这一点所以有点intimidating？？？
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以下是引用cute-wheat在5/9/2013 7:31:00 PM的发言：
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
小麦mm你真的是太sweet了。我看得很唏嘘。
更新一下，早晨看着还觉得很唏嘘，晚上又见了一面突然觉得先前对他的那种母爱爆棚心态完全没必要。现在清楚地意识到我还是没能喜欢他，因为听到他讲话声音大的时候会有想让他安静的冲动，听到他笑的时候居然会嫌他笑声不classy，而且不知道是不是潜意识想逃避，今天的谈话也出现了尴尬和冷场，下了车立刻就有懒得再联系的情绪。更冷静的想了想，觉得他也没追求的多热烈，有个有趣的妹子每周陪他吃饭聊天他当然enjoy，现在一个多月也没什么实质的表示，花钱又算什么。总之写下这些就又意识到，他那些“我跟你open up这么多你可能会伤害我”的言论也许是他一时vulnerable的真心话，但也许只是play victim。 看来必须move forward了。
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