Tenure pressure+ enjoy doing research/work than doing housework=your LG's status is normal

Solution :Find a common interest/hobby/activity(not housework) both of you enjoy doing together to increase time spent together (e.g., movie, hiking, biking, pingpong )
Also hire someone for baby sitting and housework
you can also try this mobile application to find others help you do errands and save you time to have fun with kids and husband

https://www.helloalfred.com/