Casual sex is sexual activity that takes place outside a romantic relationship and implies an absence of commitment, emotional attachment, or familiarity between sexual partners.

我的看法是，你面对别人或许可以展现不同的一面。但是你自己内心想要的不太可能同时是casual 和 serious。

我试了casual sex但是发现我觉得没什么意思，所以就不玩了。还是正正经经的约会更有意思，有满足感。

lol 同意你的想法 但是我是不会这样做的。 因为我也不希望别人这样对我。 我相信karma。

那你会直接告诉你在serious交往的人你还在同时f*ck其他人？

发帖的目的就是觉得这个是比较有争议的话题。只是想分享一个对于我来说比较有启发的观点。

结合自己的经验， 我个人觉得如果你想要和某个人develop serious relationship 即使在dating的阶段 也需要treat那个人 with respect and be the person you want to be with. Dating 阶段就是在考量那个人是不是值得你想invest your time and emotions. 我个人的标准是 如果我知道我想serious date的那个还在casually date other people， it is a red flag and big turn off. Also that is a sign the I am not attractive enough to him to make him stop looking around. 还有一个观点是 你在约会的人或者是你的mirrors 或者是你的tests。 如果你的目标是找到你的mirror，你需要了解自己最深的内心需要，heal yourself first and date consciously。

We are talking about dating and casual sex. Dating someone seriously doesn't mean you are in a relationship with that person.