I wouldn't pay anything for the first 3 dates. So I wouldn't even go on the second date with him. It is up to you. You can communicate with him about your values on dating or you can find another guy who is happy to buy you a dinner :)

是的。我也觉得。可是我问他要不要split，他又说当然你是学生我工作了，这顿可以我来付。我觉得算太清楚了，而且60刀真的也不贵。一个人30刀我没觉得请很多，以他的职位至少一年是23万的package。反正太cheap了，我在cmb上约了几个，这种样子的真是第一次见到，餐厅也是他挑的，东西也是他点的，而且我点了我的东西之后，他还点了个其他的说要share，结果我根本吃不完，账单来了还迟迟不付帐。我现在就想他周三来我们学校，我要怎么拒绝他。就说我很忙？


公用马甲2 发表于 7/24/2018 2:12:01 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78112276#78112276][/url]

This guy is CHEAP. The END. And you two have different dating values.
You can just say "Something comes up. I have some other plans on Wednesday." If he is interested in you, he will arrange some other time. If you are sure not to see him anymore, you don't need to reply anything. Usually guys will understand at that point.

Also, did he set up a plan on Wednesday? If he didn't follow up, don't even bother send any message. He may flake on his side, just saying....

其实无所谓谁对谁错。主要是看当事人是不是接受。要是两个人都觉得舒服，那就无所谓。但是如果一个人觉得不爽，那至少说明两个人的价值观可能有差异，那愿意改变就处着，不愿意就拜拜呗。


hohohaha 发表于 7/26/2018 3:03:48 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78129111#78129111][/url]

I agree. Different values. Most importantly, whether you feel comfortable about his behavior. Don't ever think about he will make changes for you.

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78113624#78113624]5楼公用马甲2的帖子[/url]

每个男人的想法，还有经济实力和家庭教育都不一样的。但是大部分男人现在倾向split.
记得是十多年以前，我向个在读书的美国男博士生调查， 回答是第一次会付钱，
以后就要go Dutch 了。 后来我将这事告诉我的闺蜜， 她干脆吃好了饭再去约会， 这样就不用
付钱了。
rhino 发表于 8/1/2018 9:44:23 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78174406#78174406][/url]

奇怪，我目前在date的人前三次都没说过一次要split。我觉得还是要看你自己挑人。go dutch 谁挑馆子呢？

第二次他叫我和他一起去看家具帮参谋，结果约了个7点半，也没说吃饭。


ddydx 发表于 8/7/2018 1:37:02 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78214790#78214790][/url]

This is a CHEAP date. You definitely shouldn't go when he proposed this plan. :(

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=2320797&postid=78217284#78217284]59楼ddydx的帖子[/url] IF a guy asks you out, but the plan is something only he wants to do, then you know he doesn't make any effort on you. Don't worry, I was on this kind of date once too!