谢谢在这给过我鼓励和意见的姐妹，是大家的鼓励才我没有放弃。这学期过了，两门都得了A，写作课基本上每周都去教授的办公室，得到很多的帮助。开学的那段时间真的是黑暗的，自己心理没准备好。现在觉得信心满满，冲劲十足！



一夜未眠，等到了6:30， 学校的register web 开放，withdraw 了两门课。Working women in American society
Introduction to race , gender and sexuality
谢谢大家的意见！应该早点来求助的。

谢谢大家的回复，受到些鼓励，让我又看到一点点希望。
现在的OPTION就是drop 掉两门，看了下日历，过了28号drop 就是 W grade, 有影响吗？


决定退学了，觉得自己好没用，承受不了这样的压力。
社区大学两年，GPA 3.75， 刚转到Rutgers new Brunswick. 每天开车来回三小时，8:40的课6点就要出门，晚上8点才回家。
四门课算了下要写10篇的research paper， 课程如下：
working women in American society, 每个礼拜60页纸的阅读
introduction to race gender and sexuality, 每节课100多页的阅读，写两页纸的Journal Entry
drug and abuse , writing 300 ，今天开始写第一篇paper, 三篇文章的阅读，连写作要求都看不太懂，最后一根稻草。
Introduction to Language

学这些文科课程没兴趣， 太痛苦了。
社区大学是特别喜欢编程课，可现在一想，是不是教的太简单了，到了秋季上专业课我是不是还是觉得跟不上。
全部自费，读下来3-4万的花费。。。。哎


晚上从公交站到Parking lot 要做一段偏僻的路，好怕被抢，每天都好饿，课程之间转巴士，没时间吃东西。
星期三晚上回家饿到胃痛要不行，吃东西都不行。
打电话回家，我在这边哭妈妈在那边哭，说压力太大就不要读了，她说知道我每天要开那么久的车她都提心吊胆。
在国内也就上到大专，可能自己不是读书的料。好在老公理解，尊重我的任何决定。
现在都头痛，吃了两颗止痛药都没效果。

去运动吧，会不会是depression前兆？
9tonight 发表于 1/29/2016 11:34:50 AM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70595971#70595971][/url]

到底什么是depression? 界限在哪？

决定退学了

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602612#70602612]18楼kicku100的帖子[/url] 能Drop 吗？不是全职学生都要12点的credit 吗？

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602643#70602643]22楼sunny988的帖子[/url] 没有身份限制。不知道周末他们上不上班，要不在去问问

你为啥非要坚持full time呢，需要这个身份？还是找工作会有区别。

好吧，首先我就不理解你为什么要选择这么生冷的专业。好找工作吗？还是你喜欢。可是你喜欢也没能坚持下去啊。
福泽狗 发表于 1/29/2016 7:19:37 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602685#70602685][/url]

我的专业是CS，怎么会冷门呢？这些课是 SAS core course

你是不是搞错情况了，你的课程像社会学或者劳工关系的必修课，不应该是CS的必修课，最多是选修课，可以替代的啊。你去修个社会统计也容易很多啊


阿婆 发表于 1/29/2016 7:25:55 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602747#70602747][/url]

都是选修，等到我们Transfer students 选的时候大部分容易的想CLOSE了，所以选了这几门。

我真闲，这是你们学校CS的要求[url=https://www.cs.rutgers.edu/undergraduate/BS_2011.whtml]https://www.cs.rutgers.edu/undergraduate/BS_2011.whtml[/url]

没有这些课程啊
阿婆 发表于 1/29/2016 7:29:57 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602798#70602798][/url]

http://sasundergrad.rutgers.edu/academics/requirements/core

你说她努力，这不都要退学了么？狠一点的也就想别的办法熬下去了。她怎么好像被网友提醒了才想到也许不用死熬full time学生。
福泽狗 发表于 1/29/2016 7:46:34 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602957#70602957][/url]

我确实开始没想到PART TIME，一是觉得自己能行，二是学费不一样。

lz你是不是没上对课？这些是心理学和社工的课。不明白你学cs为啥要学这些
moistwing 发表于 1/29/2016 7:46:54 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70602961#70602961][/url]

都是SAS的core课程

看了下日历，过了28号drop 就是 W grade, 有影响吗？我真的就想drop两门

我真的不知道怎么办了，不聪明，人格缺陷，懒惰都已经形成了，我最近两个礼拜，头痛失眠，就是没有承受压力的肩膀。在社大都是班上一二名，数学编程都是满分的时候多，现在坐在这里泪如雨下，一会看到留言觉得还有希望，一会觉得没有希望，想到放弃就不用面对压力是心理又觉得轻松，一分钟之后又觉得自己没用，举棋不定。

It seems that I can't drop two classes. Request to Become a Part-time Student Print Email Rutgers is a full-time institution; therefore, part-time status is reserved only for independent students or students in their last semester who need less than 12 credits to complete their degree. Requests for part-time attendance must be made before the beginning of the semester. Any request made after the semester has commenced will be considered for the following semester. If you meet one of the criteria described below, you may request part-time status. Seniors entering their last semester Seniors in their final semester who need less than 12 credits to graduate are eligible to register for only the credits that they need to complete their degree. No paperwork is needed. Students simply need to register for only the courses that are needed to graduate. If a course is added that the student does not need, the student will need assistance with dropping the course. Registration changes that bring a student below 12 credits must be done in person at an SAS Advising Center. Please note that this must be done by the end of the first week of classes. Students will not be able to drop below 12 credits after the Drop without a W period ends (see the Registration page for exact dates), even if the student does not need the course to graduate. All other students requesting part time Students (who are not seniors in their last semester) who would like to be considered for part-time status must provide copies of the following documents to the Office for Nontraditional Students and Special Populations: 1) a Financial Aid statement indicating independent status or 2) a copy of a lease with their name on it and a current 1040 tax statement indicating they claim themselves. Without this documented proof, a student cannot qualify for part-time status. The decision to register for less than 12 credits and become a part-time student often has significant implications for the student's financial aid, health insurance coverage, housing, scholarship eligibility, and the like. Students must consult with an academic adviser familiar with these issues before submitting a request for part-time status. To request to become a part-time student, please email Dean Arroyo. Extenuating Medical Circumstances Students with extenuating medical circumstances should consult with the Dean of Students who will communicate with Dean Arroyo to determine if part-time status is warranted. In the event that part-time status is approved, it will be for only one semester. Students on Academic Warning or Academic Probation Students with academic standing difficulty should meet with an academic adviser before considering taking less than 12 credits, even if they qualify. International Students International Students are required to maintain full-time status, except potentially in the final semester before graduation. Additional information can be found on the Center for International Faculty and Student Services website. For More Information For more information about registration policies, please visit the Registration and Course Policies page.

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70603631#70603631]101楼fancynuts的帖子[/url] 两页是每节课前的阅读总结，paper都是5-7，8-10

我没搞懂，退学是指就一直不学了，还是这个学期不学，下个学期继续学？
cushaw 发表于 1/29/2016 10:04:24 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70604365#70604365][/url]

如果真的退了，就是放弃了，估计没有勇气在复学了

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70604429#70604429]116楼sissy.的帖子[/url] 真的很佩服有毅力的妹妹，我压着自己看书，上个礼拜看了5个小时看了50页，真的是 我的极限了 后50页用软件听完的。

一夜未眠，等到了6:30， 学校的register web 开放，withdraw 了两门课。Working women in American society
Introduction to race , gender and sexuality
谢谢大家的意见！应该早点来求助的。

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70606946#70606946]136楼senxiaodie的帖子[/url] 你为什么会下这样的结论？

回复 [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964596&postid=70606957#70606957]138楼yshe的帖子[/url] 嗯，我会全力以赴，现在心理的压力也小了，多了些动力。