分手，如果他不同意至少要拿出令lzmm满意的方案，如果他同意了，那就没什么好说的了

我也有一个闺密，同居几年没xx过，不是男的不想，就是女的不肯，男的也想办法引诱她过，两个人差不多就差最后那步了。。。她坚持要等婚后，一个perfect的环境下进行他们的第一次（完美主义者？）

我说你不怕他不行？她说她这个心理还比较有底

以下是引用kano在2008-2-9 15:27:00的发言：

我也有一个闺密，同居几年没xx过，不是男的不想，就是女的不肯，男的也想办法引诱她过，两个人差不多就差最后那步了。。。她坚持要等婚后，一个perfect的环境下进行他们的第一次（完美主义者？）

我说你不怕他不行？她说她这个心理还比较有底

我有这个的男生版  网上相亲认识， 很快就有肉体接触， 但女的死活不让进， 每次都是互相用手解决。 而且女的需求还很多。 持续了1年多。 男生带女的见过父母朋友，送了戒指，打算结婚， 女的还是不让实质性ML。 男生很frustrated， 开始怀疑女生是否真的爱他， 或是生理上不能ML， 有点害怕结婚后还会这样被她这样sexually控制。

什么事情都是水到渠成的比较好

LZ

He is gay and you are his beard.

But you are not that into him either.

I’ve know girls who abstain from sex before marriage. These girls keep their living arrangement clean-cut too. They won’t live together with boyfriends.

LZ is not that into her boyfriend yet she is eager to live together and want a marriage to happen after a decent lapse of time.

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我那个朋友也是见了父母，准备结婚的，不过女方父母不太看好男的，嫌他学历低（本科，女的phd在读）但是女的一直没有屈服父母阻力，就认定他，他们打算等女的毕业了，有了工作就结婚的，不过女的偶尔也会觉得此男不够上进（考研不成，总不认真复习再考，国内竞争激烈，小本什么都不是），我说她要是一定强求将来没准还得为这个吵，她若实在不能妥协不如分手就算了，她又不肯

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这样显得合理多了，不过还是很佩服mm的理智啊

以下是引用hahami在2008-2-8 23:01:00的发言：
同居5年都没有XXX，容我ORZ一个

co ORZ

Maybe that is the problem?

这个男人绝对有问题！！先不说他爱不爱你。 一个有正常生理欲望的男人，5年没有性关系，还不想结婚 - 那他生理不正常。生理不正常的男人要他干嘛？

也许他觉得应该发生了些什么才真正知道合适不合适，然后才会考虑结婚呢？

要不5年什么都没有，我觉得他没个你分手都是他太牛了。

我有朋友就是一直这样不愿意，谈了5年，男友也一直和她拖着，没说结婚，但是人家后来一碰上个送上门的立马爱的死去活来把我朋友甩了

I have similar situation like lz. we dated about 4 years instead of 5. We've never had sex because I strongly refused. At first, I refused it because I don't want to do it before marriage. I don't think it's right. But later on, I found even if sometimes I want to do it, we couldn't, because I'm cn, and his thing is huge that he definitelly can not go in. Now, I just lost interest to do it. I feel like my hormal level is really low. only a few days before my period, I have a little bit feelings. otherwise, I really don't like sex at all. My bf said I'm not physically attracted to him. I don't know. What do you mean by physically attracted? The first time will be very painful, how mms are so brave to try it if you don't know this man is going to marry you? But his excuse is if he is not sure if we are able to have sex, why should he get married?

confused.

but if it does not work after the test drive, your first time will be gone.

Plus, test drive what? you can tell by other behaviors related to sex, instead of intercourse, which is more dangerous.

偶不大懂你的意思，啥叫you can tell by other behaviors related to sex, instead of intercourse, which is more dangerous呀

另外，不是说就该和人乱交，但是，不就是一层膜么，没了就没了亚。没了的多了去了啊

我们家那位很爱讲话，我也受不了