估计遗传了，也不善于表达。

以下是引用大南瓜在8/9/2011 5:32:00 PM的发言：
哦，这样当时我也不知道是类似这种的啊。不过我看我妈穿着特高兴，也就罢了

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就是Dr. Scholl's的fitness walkers.

哈哈哈，真逗啊，还真的是呢

以下是引用大南瓜在8/10/2011 12:06:00 AM的发言：
跟亚洲人有啥关系？

是不是壮妈说那个女的歧视亚洲人呀？

因为我和我老板打算report这个女PM，我昨天去找一个台湾女生，她给女PM干活，被欺负的很惨。我知道她曾经和HR反应过，我想问她我是不是可以举她的例子

她说一定要对着HR重复她的故事，她很肯定女PM歧视亚洲人

去年这个女PM给台湾女生很差的评价，台湾女去找她面谈，女PM的原话是类似“i think you have a communication problem. i would suggest you write down what you want to say before you say it. I would also suggest our director to hire a communication specialist to go to work with you everyday, sitting next to you and coaching you how to talk"

这个女PM还强调，她从前的组里有亚洲女生，她和人家说过一模一样的话

要知道台湾女来美20多年，人家的英文在亚洲人中起码算平均水平，基本的沟通没有问题

你说这样说话，算不算歧视？台湾女当场就哭了，气得不知道怎么回答

呵呵，这样看下来，女PM对我已经很客气了

我要是将来和她再度合作，一定要时时刻刻准备好反击。估计我遇到这样的事情，没有准备的话，肯定也会哭。准备好了，我肯定说，I will schedule a meeting with HR, you and me. I want you to repeat what you just said in front of HR. Communication takes two people. I don't have communication problems with others, but you. Maybe it is because you have a listening problem.

我老板让我准备一下，怎么和HR面谈

我还挺发愁的，一定要保持客观，不能一味抱怨

那个台湾女说她都打算请律师了

天妈也不来了，宝贝妈也不在，我很希望找个英文好的人帮我看看。要不辰妈你帮我看看？

不知道穿个马甲，贴到楼外去会不会有用？

壮妈还是别贴到外面去了。我觉得外面的人太杂。。出主意的不多。。好多回贴你还会看着来气。。。。。。。

你这个老板是不是那个新上来的女老板?

她怎么看？她要跟你一起report, 是因为她们之间也有冲突，还是因为她support你报告？？

谢谢老大娘。我也觉得华人现在风气越来越差。听你的

对，是我从前那个老板，重新回来的那个

我告诉她我在申请另外的部门，她问我这个女PM是不是一个原因我要离开。我说是的。如果不是上个月那个事情把我气得，我根本不会动念头申请的

我新老板现在缺人的厉害，她不希望我离开，所以她问我如果她出面解决这个事情，能不能改变我的主意

唉，很麻烦啊。。。。

我说不论我走还是留，我都希望能够把这个闹到HR去

我老是把事情搞砸，今天上午我跑去和对方组面谈，我没有告诉我老板。结果刚才她居然笑眯眯的跑来问我谈的怎么样

好尴尬啊。呜呜，我也够倒霉的

直到昨天中午，我才得知对方的大老板想见我。上个周五我老板问我的时候，我还啥都不知道呢

这下她肯定以为我说谎骗她

好糟糕啊，昨天我犹豫了，最后决定不发email告诉老板，今天就东窗事发

谢谢辰妈。我发上来你们给我看看吧，别笑话我的破英文

我马上开会去了，回来看

对方组面谈还行吧，主要是他们sell their work to me, 呵呵

他们没有我现在的组有意思啊，唉，我举棋不定。要是老板给我match对方的offer，我肯定留下来。但是那样压力会非常大，而且我估计她不会这样做

I worked with this person on the same project. Her unprofessional behaviors really concern me.  This type of behavior repeated almost every time when there was a challenge on a design decision or a mismatch between the scope and design that I was involved.

During the project, a design decision was usually made or approved by a team. It was not uncommon for a decision to be challenged and revisited. Sometimes, miscommunication between the design and development teams created different expectations of scope and schedule etc. This type of expectation mismatch could be resolved by communication, comprise and rescheduling.

However, when I was related to the challenged decision or the mismatch, before communicating to me about the rationale behind the decision or how the mismatch happened, this person made the assumption it was my fault and got emotional.

One time I took over a feature design from someone else and there was a scope/design mismatch. This was caused by the miscommunication between the former design owner and development. Even after the former owner and I explained it, this person still yelled at me loudly in front of my colleagues. I was never treated like that before! This kind of behavior was a big disturbance of my work and created lots of mental pressure.

This kind of behavior repeated itself multiple times and it made me feel that I am the reason she got angry, not what happened

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