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[此贴子已经被作者于2006-7-3 22:38:32编辑过]

"Consider that many young couples could not even get along with their own parents and inlaws, me getting along with both nannies are really miracles"

这话好像不太对。nanny 是你花钱雇的，你的主人地位不言而喻；那些不明白道理的nanny你也不会雇她。own parents and inlaws 常常会反客为主，所以很多不好相处。

Very good post. Thanks for sharing. I am preparing for the future now, so this is very helpful.

I like the idea of hiring a live-in nanny and I feel it's much easier to deal with a good nanny than dealing with parents. My question for you is whether you have ever feel inconvenience of having a stranger at home?

Good post.

LZ is lucky to find two nice live-in nannies.

Also, you are fortunate to be able to spend 6 months with your baby. I don't think a lot of the new moms are able to do that.

Most of all, you are a smart mom and employee. I wish I have your wisdom.

[此贴子已经被作者于2006-7-4 2:20:39编辑过]

I agree with you that you can choose (or fire) your nanny but not your parents or inlaws (after marriage). So it is going to be tricky too.

You are welcome. However I would not think to hire a nanny is a better solution than getting parents' help.

1. It is extrmely difficult to find somebody who you can trust, who is kind and caring with a loving heart. Most nannies I interviewed are either too money oriented or lack of interest in babies or speak Cantonese, that's why I went with other choices twice.

2. It takes time, patience and trust to deal with a stranger at home, especially when your nanny has different religion.

3. If your parents can come and they are healthy, be even more appreciative to them than to nanny. I never think have parents help is a way of saving money. No it is a way getting family together and bonding (especially for baby and grandparents) and you should spend more for this (air tickets, big "allowrance" to them, travel budget, and weekend dining and leisure expense ......).

4. The biggest hurdle I heard for parents to help is you no longer have freedom in weekend, cause you need arrage activities for them. So when we do this, treat it as something we are supposed to do anyway.

I am lucky and thankful. I was not paid for over 3 months, but still appreciate the company has the policy of 3 months leave (guaranteed to have your job back) in addition to government's 12 weeks family leave.

You will have all the wisdom too when you need it.

Hehe, you would change for your baby. I used to have a 2BR apartment for myself without desire for a roommate. LD was even worse. That's why went to the option of dropping baby to somebody else's home. But ...... I guess home is baby's home too, or currently more of his home. He did not like the environment of another family or daycare. He loves the bright sunshine, tons of toys, several spacious playrooms at home.

So a mom does what she supposed to do rather than what she wants to do. I convinced my LG and myself, cause I believe staying at home is the best choice for my baby. You definitely have more control of safety and sanitation at home.

Also think of bonus, with a Chinese nanny, baby gets to learn Chinese first, which is extremely important to us.

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thank you for the post.i learned a lot.lzmm must be an excellent professional lady as well as a mom.

i'm in the similar situation,my son is 7 monthes old and now i'm back to work for 2 monthes. it is hard being a work mom. so lucky we have my parents-in-law come over to help. but it is still not easy. i don't have time for myself and when there is time i need to work overtime, i feel so sorry for my son.

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