以前在国内，总是羡慕那些白领八面玲珑，四面圆滑的处事之道，想想自己一路读书读上来（虽然在国内上了3个月班），degree倒是蛮高，处世经验却少得很。这不，在美国上班第一个月我就来了一次倒霉遭遇，让我也学了很多。

有一天，我做完一个重要的project，我上司很高兴，就对我说：你给Tom发一封信，问他什么时候我们讨论一下。我就给秘书发了封信，让她arrange a time for Tom, my boss and me。于是时间定下来了，是第三天的某个时间。第二天，我老板没来。我一来办公室就说到二头Bill的信，怒气冲冲的问我和秘书，为什么开这个会不叫他。什么I heard there is a meeting going on...秘书一听大惊，连忙把我的email forward给bill，说，不是我的错，我只是听人办事而已，意思是说我让她这么做。我当时没说话（其实我是听我老板的），马上道了谦，让秘书从新约时间。秘书就给我发了一份信说，you must let me know how many people in the meeting if you want to schedule a meeting,...反正挺不客气地，因为她被人骂了嘛。后来她还专门到Bill那里去道歉，我听了挺不好受的，想，算了，吃个哑巴亏吧，我可不想推到我老板那里去。

第二天我老板来了，听说了这件事，马上亲自到Bill，秘书和我这儿来道歉，说是她没想周全，不要怪我。风波就这样平息下来乐。

结论：1，办事时不要忘了任何一个可能有关联的人。Bill虽然不是紧密关联，但我们凡是重要的会议他都会参加。而且，当时开会的都是Phd（这可能也是我老板没想到Bill的原因，因为比较technical），忽略了他，他可能觉得自己用处不大，所以非常生气。

2，我很喜欢我老板，我觉得她处理的很好。有些时候责任该往身上揽的时候还是要揽。人家会appreciate的，比如我

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看来刚开始的时候 了解工作 和 理清人脉 一样重要。

mm的老板真不错。

You have a good boss! This meeting schedule thing doesn't seem like much conflict, but for things that are "serious", never take the blame unless it's your fault indeed...

Bill handles it very nice! Sometimes I felt like "neglected" in meeting invitations, but didn't step out and argue about it. Never get it started, or it'll only get worse...Lessons learnt, I guess, hehe

Thank you for your suggestion, I would never say sorry again if it is not my fault next time

I think that you should have appologized to the secretary as well;

although it was not your fault, but you were in contact with her

and she might always link this unpleasant moment with you.

you will need her help on many trivial things later--better make

some effort to please her.

that is true.

Even I apologized and my boss apologized to her, she did not like me for a while. But I approached her by lending her movies and going out for lunch, now she is nice to me

同意。

好贴

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