以下是引用lilijiejie在2009-2-11 22:56:00的发言：
我深有体会small talk的重要性．可我的积分不够，攒呀攒呀．有哪位好心mm能发个总结贴到我的信箱里吗？谢谢！当然我也会积极继续努力攒积分的！
没有人在这个帖子里设魅力8，你的积分不够和这个帖子有什么关系啊
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职版长期活动——small talk
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搜肠刮肚找地回忆topic啊
topic 1: 去一个朋友的朋友的儿子的bday party（第一次见），他要上我的车把我带到停车位
他上车
he: nice car!
me: thanks. actually it's my husband's. i stole it today, haha. mine is a PT cruiser. my friends all say it's hideous, but i call it my cute little car~
he: haha
he saw the the sticky with directions to his place.
he: huh, you still do it the old fashioned way!
me: yea, i have a GPS but it's just too slow. when you don't follow it's route, it starts recalculating and never stops...
he: em...
topic 1: 去一个朋友的朋友的儿子的bday party（第一次见），他要上我的车把我带到停车位
他上车
he: nice car!
me: thanks. actually it's my husband's. i stole it today, haha. mine is a PT cruiser. my friends all say it's hideous, but i call it my cute little car~
he: haha
he saw the the sticky with directions to his place.
he: huh, you still do it the old fashioned way!
me: yea, i have a GPS but it's just too slow. when you don't follow it's route, it starts recalculating and never stops...
he: em...
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topic 2: 还在那个bday party, 看见一漂亮黑mm
me: hi. which one is your kid?
she: that one over there... kk
me: she's very pretty. is she your only child?
she: thank you~~ no. i have another little girl. my husband is taking care of her at home. you know, kids need to take a nap.
me: ya. how old is kk?
she: 4 and half
me: how did you know xxx(the host)?
she: kk and aa(birthday boy) go to the same pre-school. and we go to the same church as well
me: ohh. where do you live?
she: you know xx drive?
me: xx canyon? I go there a lot for the workshops!
she: yea!
me: how long have you been here in xx?
she: almost a year. before here, we lived in LV.
me: is it always hot there?
she: ya. but it's more humid. you're always sweaty and blahblah
me: ya, i guess dry heat is better than humid heat.
me: hi. which one is your kid?
she: that one over there... kk
me: she's very pretty. is she your only child?
she: thank you~~ no. i have another little girl. my husband is taking care of her at home. you know, kids need to take a nap.
me: ya. how old is kk?
she: 4 and half
me: how did you know xxx(the host)?
she: kk and aa(birthday boy) go to the same pre-school. and we go to the same church as well
me: ohh. where do you live?
she: you know xx drive?
me: xx canyon? I go there a lot for the workshops!
she: yea!
me: how long have you been here in xx?
she: almost a year. before here, we lived in LV.
me: is it always hot there?
she: ya. but it's more humid. you're always sweaty and blahblah
me: ya, i guess dry heat is better than humid heat.
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这个，情况有点复杂，就是跟俩不熟的男生聊strip club。不记得怎么说起来的了，应该是刚开始他们俩在说，后来我插话
me: I went to Deja Vu （a chain strip club）last weekend!!
them: wow. did you go there alone or....?
me: of course with my friends, guys and girls.
them: did you enjoy it? is that your first time?
me: ya, it was my first time and I enjoyed it.
them: did your husband go with you?
me: no, but he has been there several times, well, not exactly that club thou
them: wow, and he told you that?
me: yea, that was before we met.
them A: you know, women always say you need to be honest, and you can tell them everything, but when you do, they get crazy.
them B: yea, there is one time i'm with my buddies, they wanted to go to little darling or sth. i called my gf and said, honey, they're going to little darlings. i need to go with them, but i won't do anything i promise. I thought i was being honest by telling her. but she was so mad at me.
them A: my wife wouldn't even think about it. say your husband calls you right now. he says: sweetie, i'm going to a strip club. what would you say?
me: can i go with you?
we all lol
them A: can you talk to my wife? haha
more laughing
me: I went to Deja Vu （a chain strip club）last weekend!!
them: wow. did you go there alone or....?
me: of course with my friends, guys and girls.
them: did you enjoy it? is that your first time?
me: ya, it was my first time and I enjoyed it.
them: did your husband go with you?
me: no, but he has been there several times, well, not exactly that club thou
them: wow, and he told you that?
me: yea, that was before we met.
them A: you know, women always say you need to be honest, and you can tell them everything, but when you do, they get crazy.
them B: yea, there is one time i'm with my buddies, they wanted to go to little darling or sth. i called my gf and said, honey, they're going to little darlings. i need to go with them, but i won't do anything i promise. I thought i was being honest by telling her. but she was so mad at me.
them A: my wife wouldn't even think about it. say your husband calls you right now. he says: sweetie, i'm going to a strip club. what would you say?
me: can i go with you?
we all lol
them A: can you talk to my wife? haha
more laughing
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topie 4: 上课跟同学聊天
me: what do you do in the afternoon? I feel i have nothing to do after school. I'm so bored.
she: i go to the gym sometimes.
me: which gym? that 24 fitness down the street?
she: ya! you go there too?
me: no. Fiona (another classmate) goes there everyday!
she: really. i've never seen her there
me: she said she goes everyday and usually after school.
she: maybe because i just started going there two weeks ago. i feel good after workout.
me: good for you. i'm just too lazy to work out.
she: you can do some yoga.
me: ya, i used to do yoga when i was in China. but here I only do stairmasters and threadmill and that bicycle machine.
she:oh.
me: what do you do in the afternoon? I feel i have nothing to do after school. I'm so bored.
she: i go to the gym sometimes.
me: which gym? that 24 fitness down the street?
she: ya! you go there too?
me: no. Fiona (another classmate) goes there everyday!
she: really. i've never seen her there
me: she said she goes everyday and usually after school.
she: maybe because i just started going there two weeks ago. i feel good after workout.
me: good for you. i'm just too lazy to work out.
she: you can do some yoga.
me: ya, i used to do yoga when i was in China. but here I only do stairmasters and threadmill and that bicycle machine.
she:oh.
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topic 5: talk about job hunting with classmates
me: i've been sending out resumes on craigslist, and got no responses.
she: same here. i had a degree in law in Brazil and i'm saving money to get my master's or something so i can become a paralegal. you know paralegal right?
me: ya, i saw some commercial on tv about some paralegal programs, but i'm not sure if they're good.
she: when i was here two years ago, i wanted to get an internship here to see how the law practice in the US is like. i sent out emails saying i don't need money. you don't need to pay me. i just want to experience and things like that. but nobody cared. there is only one person who is also from Brazil offered me an internship in his company. i worked there for a month. it was great experience.
me: ya, he is a great guy.
以上5个都是实战经验啊
终于凑够5个topic了，是不是有额外奖励啊
以上5楼已奖
me: i've been sending out resumes on craigslist, and got no responses.
she: same here. i had a degree in law in Brazil and i'm saving money to get my master's or something so i can become a paralegal. you know paralegal right?
me: ya, i saw some commercial on tv about some paralegal programs, but i'm not sure if they're good.
she: when i was here two years ago, i wanted to get an internship here to see how the law practice in the US is like. i sent out emails saying i don't need money. you don't need to pay me. i just want to experience and things like that. but nobody cared. there is only one person who is also from Brazil offered me an internship in his company. i worked there for a month. it was great experience.
me: ya, he is a great guy.
以上5个都是实战经验啊
终于凑够5个topic了，是不是有额外奖励啊
以上5楼已奖
[此贴子已经被Alexandria于2009-6-15 21:57:34编辑过]
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1. Movie, TV show
2. Sports
3. Local news
4. daycare
5, law care
6. house maintainance.
7 how to use milage
8. where to park for work.
9. best coffee in town
10. college related, which one is better for kid.
......
Depend on who you are talking to.
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starting from daily life.
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Here is one (lab mate just came back from a trip):
-Hi, how was the trip!
-That's awesome. My son likes florida so much! His grandfather has a small pool in the backyard, everymorning when he opens his eyes, he said, let's go swimming, I want to stay in water!
-That's terrific! So your son must want to stay with grandpa and not come back.
-Oh, you bet.
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跟老板：
问他女儿暑假做啥，跟他老婆又打算去哪里旅游，有什么好推荐（俺老板很爱吹牛）
跟小秘书：
表扬她的耳环衣服很漂亮，周末去那里玩啦
跟同事有小孩的：
小朋友多重了，会不会说话，能不能自己睡整宿，有没有周末带出去公园晒太阳
跟门卫：
来去都打个招呼，省得哪次没带id，人家为难我。。。
rewarded~
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hao tie.................ding...........
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关心别人所关心的。
1，小米在吃减肥餐并且卓有成效，每次都问她减了多少，每次她都兴高采烈地向我秀身材。
2，同事要做手术，每次见到都问：还有倒数X天，准备好了么？
3, 铁杆球迷，每次见面就问球况，剩下的全归她说了，只用偶尔面部表情配合一下。很有趣！
4，不知对方最近关心什么，就问“孩子怎样？”。老大妈，老大叔也是有孩子的。或者问“最近看了什么好片子了么？”年轻人还是爱聊电影的。
5。还有一些话题可以打开不太熟的其他组领导的话匣子，
询问过去组员的现况？询问共同认识的人的现况？
6。问一些英语习语的来历。
rewarded~
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I am listening the "Fine art of small talk". It is really good. Use "free information" !
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我也来一个。
Topic： 寒冷的天气时找人办事的闲聊
真实内容如下:
me: WoW, it is freezing cold outside. Isn't it is SO NICE and WARM here?
departmental secretary: Yes, I KNOW. We don't usually get this cold around this time of the year. But they say it is gonna get even colder tomorrow.
(background: the university had been closed for one day due to adverse weather several days ago)
me: Then, that's nice---- I hope they can close the university again, that way, we don't have to report to work, do we?
Secretary: YES! I DO hope that too.
(she finished the work with me)
Me: Thanks! Stay warm!!
S: You too!
我觉得闲聊时带进一些最近发生的，大家都熟悉的事情，可以让对话容易的展开。 :)
Topic： 寒冷的天气时找人办事的闲聊
真实内容如下:
me: WoW, it is freezing cold outside. Isn't it is SO NICE and WARM here?
departmental secretary: Yes, I KNOW. We don't usually get this cold around this time of the year. But they say it is gonna get even colder tomorrow.
(background: the university had been closed for one day due to adverse weather several days ago)
me: Then, that's nice---- I hope they can close the university again, that way, we don't have to report to work, do we?
Secretary: YES! I DO hope that too.
(she finished the work with me)
Me: Thanks! Stay warm!!
S: You too!
我觉得闲聊时带进一些最近发生的，大家都熟悉的事情，可以让对话容易的展开。 :)
[此贴子已经被作者于2011/2/9 17:26:21编辑过]
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夸奖新发型，新衣服；问周末/假期计划；专业上的问题也可以问
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问个问题，这些small talk是不是都是mm间的啊？
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版主请问现在参加活动还有奖励么？
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跟同事，在他的cube谈事，然后看见他孩子的照片，就开始small talk:
Me: Is this your son? He is so cute! What is his name?
He: Thanks. His name is Kevin, 6 years old.
Me: Is he bilingual as well? (同事是bilingual，英语和西班牙语)
He: Yes, he is. We have beening speaking both English and Spanish to him since he was born.
Me: Wow, that's really great! 然后blah blah... 说bilingual是优势，很重要...特别是对小孩子的发展。
He: 又说一大堆他是怎么学西班牙语的。
Me: 西班牙语很难学啊，特别是那个卷起来的r的发音,还有词的阴阳性。
He：中文更难啊。blah blah
Me: hahah, it's always easier if you learn it when you are a kid. Anyway, you are a very good parent. Next time, bring Kevin to the office party. It would be nice to meet him.
He: 好啊。。。
rewarded~
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it's a good topic
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我不怎么擅长small talk,不过还挺要求进步的。
我们cfo突然来了助理，坐在我不远的地方。想跟她聊天的时候老是不知道聊什么。有一次我吃完午饭回来，看到她还坐在那里，就夸人家：you work really hard, Rita...Lunch time...
估计老外也不一定喜欢被人夸工作勤奋。
she looked at me, " you know what, i need to leave early. I live in Manhattan beach. traffic is really bad during the peak hours."
Me: I see. That's really a long drive. I live close by....( I am nuts!!)
Rita: I have three kids, so I just work part time.
Me: Great! how old are they...
Rita: I have three daughters, the oldest is 13, the youngest is 9
me: i have a kid too, my son is only 19months.
Rita: oh,
me: yeah, he is so small, i feel bad sometimes
Rita: don't do that. He probably needs you more when he grows older
Me: Thanks.Lucky that I live close by. I can see him during the lunch time sometimes...
Rita: that's true...
it seems that she is still not interested in talking with me often..... I am not quite successful getting her interested in me :(
rewarded~
我们cfo突然来了助理，坐在我不远的地方。想跟她聊天的时候老是不知道聊什么。有一次我吃完午饭回来，看到她还坐在那里，就夸人家：you work really hard, Rita...Lunch time...
估计老外也不一定喜欢被人夸工作勤奋。
she looked at me, " you know what, i need to leave early. I live in Manhattan beach. traffic is really bad during the peak hours."
Me: I see. That's really a long drive. I live close by....( I am nuts!!)
Rita: I have three kids, so I just work part time.
Me: Great! how old are they...
Rita: I have three daughters, the oldest is 13, the youngest is 9
me: i have a kid too, my son is only 19months.
Rita: oh,
me: yeah, he is so small, i feel bad sometimes
Rita: don't do that. He probably needs you more when he grows older
Me: Thanks.Lucky that I live close by. I can see him during the lunch time sometimes...
Rita: that's true...
it seems that she is still not interested in talking with me often..... I am not quite successful getting her interested in me :(
rewarded~
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