偶穷学生一个，老公也是穷学生一个。 婚礼蛋糕，花，什么的都从自己的saving account出。他的父母就帮我们买了invitation,

一点都没有financial

帮助上的意思。 我准备明年毕业，所以还得留点钱过渡。 想想自己cheap的婚礼，心里就很难受， 郁闷！还有伴娘的衣服，是自己出钱买么？

好姐妹，别难过，我也要结婚了，只是登记，连“婚礼”都没有。我们双方的父母都在国内。

不过，只要和GG在一起幸福就好，也祝你们白头谐老

楼主的心情我能理解。不过在美国男方父母没有义务出婚礼的钱哦。当然现在很多年轻人都多少有父母资助些，可是想当然就会弄得自己心情不好啦。婚礼也有很多DIY省钱却也很感人的方法。mm只要花点时间，一定也可以弄得非常特别的呢。Cheer up, 开动脑筋吧。

我就是觉得明年如果回中国结婚，我的父母都会帮助我不少，他们的经济条件可是比老公的父母的条件差多了。就觉得不太fair.

偶已经能省的不能再省了，伴娘的衣服他们穿自己的衣服就好，颜色一样就行了。现在就差自己动手做蛋糕了。婚纱买的是99sale,

戒指便宜的实在买不到好看了，就买一个band象征一下。偶又要忙期末考试，也没有什么时间花心思上。

不管怎样，感谢楼上姐妹的鼓励，对老公说，5年以后，renew vows的时候要重新办一个。早知道这样，就不应该办婚礼的， 把钱省下来

出去旅游，更值得呀。

我们也是两个穷学生，办婚礼没要家里一分钱，这个办婚礼也要量体裁衣，按自己的经济状况来，如果真的是你家GG穷得连办个简单婚礼的费用都拿不出来，他父母又不肯帮忙，你又非要个像样的婚礼，那你们现在着什么急结婚呢？等有了各方妥协的计划以后再说不迟，总之不要觉得委屈了自己，要是那样心里总会有结，对以后的关系不利。

婚礼要花那么多的钱啊。。。。

我有心理阴影了。。

不如出去玩一趟更爽啊

。在美国，传统上讲婚礼是女方家操办。现在不少的婚宴是每家只负责自己的客人， 比如男方家10个客人，女方家5个客人， 那就按这个比例付费用。 其他的费用一家一半。很多年轻人申请贷款办婚礼。 在婚纱展上，有不少贷款机构参加。

你的心情可以理解，你还不如等他的经济条件好些，再办婚礼。   

You can try some DIY ideas.  My fiance is American, and so, most of the cost will be on my family.  I'm doing many things to save up.  Here are some ideas I have:

DYI invitations and placecards- buy some rubber stamps and ready-to-print invitations cards ($15 for 100 at Michael's) and print it yourself, be creative in making something with ribbons etc.  Avg cost of invitations run $150 to $400. 

Look into alternative centerpieces than flowers, something you can give as presents later (maybe as gift to your bridesmaid), things like large pillar candles in vases.  Decorate yourself with clear crystal garlands (on sale now from the holidays).  I'm using Chinese lanterns.  This will save a lot of money for flowers.

Look for a cheaper place to have the ceremony and reception.  Natural gardens and parks are cheaper and pretty.

Music- try putting on something from an iPOD and just have a friend monitor the playlist throughout the reception.  This will save at least a thousand for a DJ.

Have friends take pictures and do photoshop yourself.  Maybe send picture files to a photo printing company China later on to make an album.

Dress- David's Bridal has their $99 sales all the time.  Or, you can find an elegant simpler white dress at department stores.  Have your bridesmaids pick dresses from department stores rather than bridal salons- more available sizes and cheaper.

Have friends help you out too.  Friends are great resources for makeup and hair help, as well as a lot of set up work.

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I'm using some of these ideas, and my budget is about ten thousand.  So far, I'm within my budget.  Good luck with everything!  Wish you the best.

oh, and cake- some people have a smaller but beautiful cake for show and then use a sheet cake (cheaper) to serve, waiters can keep and cut this one in the kitchen.  Or, you can just ask bakery or Costco to make a plain sheet cake with smooth icing and decorate yourself with flowers.

BTW, Costco can deliver flowers fresh the same day.  From what I've heard, their roses are nice.

其实不需要在乎那么多形式，想想自己挣钱那么辛苦，就舍不得花2万在婚礼上了，这些钱用来买新家家具多好啊。

以下是引用zuerzuer在2006-11-20 14:11:00的发言：

好姐妹，别难过，我也要结婚了，只是登记，连“婚礼”都没有。我们双方的父母都在国内。

不过，只要和GG在一起幸福就好，也祝你们白头谐老

是的是的，我也只打算弄个很cheap的

big white wedding就永远是梦了，呵呵

It really depends on your preference and financial ability. The most important thing is not to stress yourself while preparing wedding. Do what is most comfortable for both of you. Anyway, wedding is just a ceremony. The commitment to love and support each other for the rest of your life is what really matters.

I know there will be some conflicts during preparation. In my situation, it is not the money. (my fiancee's dad is very nice and offered to pay for wedding). He wanted it to be a big event inviting all friends/family, but my fiancee and I just wanted a small wedding inviting only a handful of close familiy members. We are trying to do things that accomodate both needs. But we know that both of paritis will have to compromise somehow. Regardless,  try to do whatever you feel comfortable. It does not have to go with any style/size, it is your wedding and you decide what is a must and what can be skipped. Good luck!